How do you draw the line between an 8 year old trying to get away something, and a boy doing what he is doing because he has AS?
Tony Attwood's Answer:
I think in a way that's been answered. AS is a difference, but not a license to do whatever you want to do. If they want to do what they want to do, then often we use a timer. If they're watching TV, we often say, "you can watch TV for 15 minutes" ñ one day it's 10 minutes, and other it's 15 minutes ñ it's very inconsistent. The child knows that if it's your opinion of when it stops, they can use emotional blackmail to get you to change your mind. That's why we get a timer, "okay, you've got 15 minutes, and when the timer goes off, that's the end." I read in a computer magazine the other day about a wonderful computer program that you can load onto your computer, and every so often, it flashes a message across the screen, "time to take a break, you've been on this long enough." That's what they want! It's not you, the computer says "I've had enough, I need a break, you must go have a cup of tea!" And then they'll believe it! So find one of those programs. So, we use a timer in that process, so it's the timer that says you've got to stop, not you in that situation.
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