First, here are some tips for Parents which can encourage effective communication and teamwork beginning the first day of school.
1. Create predictability for you and your child regarding daily preparation for school
-----Ensure your child goes to bed early on school nights (decide on a time - include child if appropriate)
---- Begin practicing desired morning rituals (e.g., wake-up time, bath time, breakfast time)
-----Add more time to prepare during the first week of school
-----Have the child choose clothing and shoes for the school day the night before (some children may need
to choose from a couple of appropriate clothing items vs. their entire closet, etc.)
-----Have the child prepare backpack or school bag the night before - place this at the door the child will be
using to go to school
-----Identify where the child will place his/her backpack upon arrival from school
-----Create a daily time to review communication materials from the teacher!
-----Have your child choose, from a list of breakfast foods, what he/she wants for breakfast the first
day/week....(be sure to have these selected items!)
-----Purchase a timer to help with timelines and transitions for getting ready (encourage child to help decide
how much time will be needed for each task of getting ready)
2. Ask about "daily" communication from teacher regarding child's successes for the day + challenges
3. Ask about "daily" communication from teacher regarding child's progress in the area of socialization, communication, & behavior
4. Compliment the teacher's efforts whenever possible (this can be done on a common notebook just for communication between school and home)
5. Before writing down a complaint - check for understanding from the teacher.
6. Write down your concerns regarding a decision or interaction your child experienced. Teachers do want to know about & address your concerns - especially if presented in a respectful, calm manner.
7. Confidentially, inform the teacher of changes in medication, home situations, or illnesses which may have an affect on your child's behavior or emotions for that particular day (or year).
8. Give your child a "kid" reason for following through with the above mentioned changes. For example, each task completed = a minute towards reading the child's favorite book, listening to favorite music, playing favorite video game, or computer time; each task follows a more desired task... first do this.. then you can do ..... )